Is this incest?

Saw this sometime ago.. too funny not to share hahaha. 

Sem's coming to an end! Holiday is finally in sight! (:

-Timothy Lastname

With or without.

Towels, that is.

- Timothy Lastname

The lack of social institutionalization of norms

Recently, I've been thinking about relationships. Straight ones. Gay ones.

When we speak about norms and standards, one common reaction is to give no fucks, to pave our own way, our way. After all, they do say not to go where the path may lead, but instead to leave a trail of our own.

Still, there must have first existed a path before the said deviance. We are treading the path alone with no guide, no standard to follow, nothing to compare ourselves to.

Are we happy? Are we doing good? Are we better off than others? Are we content?

These questions we cannot reasonably answer unless we have someone to compare ourselves to. Happiness and contentment... they lie on the continuum of endless possibilities, and without another, have no inherent value.

And yet if we use our past experiences as a yardstick, we invariably end up craving for more.

To be fulfilled with a self-defined level of contentment takes a lot. A whole lot.

Unlike straight couples, who have many indicators of accomplishments (say marriage, having kids), gay couples have to seek meaning through other means. And these means are often not well established or well recognized. Only one indicator is well established enough to be of significance (personal opinion at the moment, likely to change with time), and that is time.

Straight couples know they are on the next stage of the relationship when they get engaged. Married. And then again, when they give birth to junior.

Gay couples… just don't have that coherent a model to follow. Even after achieving a clear identity of the self (Who am I?), our circumstances do not allow us the luxury of that with a significant other (Who are we, really?).

As much as I despise many social constructions, I now learn that I have become too dependent on them.

Hmm.

- The Armchair Philosopher

One sexy woman.

Aside from the horrible sound effects and the shameless hair blowing, I felt this video was rather interesting. And of course, at that certain point, the fanboy in me couldn't help but scream, albeit silently, "Do it!! Do it!!". 

Not sure how I would feel if the girl in the video wasn't as hot though. :| sad but true. 

In other news… Oh crap it's written in Chinese. Well, something about a church saying something. And the people in the photo not taking it. Pretty cool. I think that qualifies as illegal gathering in Singapore, unless a permit is issued. Hmmm then again I might be wrong. Still... awesome.

-Timothy Lastname

The negative penis

I was attempting to do some last minute readings for my class at the condo clubhouse yesterday. I failed miserably for two reasons:

1. The readings are pretty tough.

2. There's this Indian family gathering of sorts so I had to share the table with some of their kids. And their topic of conversation revolved around sex, relationship, and the specific kind of body parts that made them different.

Interesting quips that I didn't overhear because they were so damn loud include: some boy announcing he likes men, and another telling a girl she has a negative penis, because instead of growing out, it grew back in. 

Needless to say, not much studying got done. 

I hope there isn't gonna be a quiz.

-Timothy Lastname

New Project!

I was reading this this morning when I chanced upon this comment.

I'm sorry, but uh, your son was gay because he wanted to be a girl? Are you… never mind. Lol.

I guess she didn't read the HPB FAQs.

If given the choice a long long time ago, before I first knew, I would have wanted to be straight. Cause that's what my parents taught me. I didn't turn gay because being it won me more love. In fact, I had less of it. And just for the record, I have no siblings and no, I do not want to be a girl. I have no idea how that idea got into her head. It's almost amazing.

Anyway, in other more positive news… I have started my first awesome project of 2014.

It's kinda like a book-sharing thing but on a more personal level. Pretty interesting and funny book of mine. That I'll never see again. But that's cool. I hope it goes far.. (:

-Timothy Lastname

Pink Dot is back!

This will be the first Pink Dot since I came out to my secondary school friends! Heh! Not sure if I'll be asking them along this year though.. It's too bad we're not allowed to go anywhere but Hong Lim Park. It's getting too crowded already! Last year I think we had an obese pink whale or something. 

Anyway, I've been really busy with exams this week and the last, but I managed to squeeze in a haircut appointment. This is the result:

And, as usual, Dad had to ask, "You cut hair ah?" like it wasn't obvious enough. 

"No I burnt it by accident."

-Timothy Lastname